بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم أخلاق المسلم كما أن الناس يختلفون في طباعهم وأشكالهم..
كذلك هم يختلفون في وجهات نظرهم.. وفي قناعاتهم وتصرفاتهم..
فإذا شعرت أن أحداً خالف الصواب.. ونصحته وحاولت إصلاح خطئه ولم يقتنع..
فلا تصنف اسمه من بين أعدائك.. وخذ الأمور بأريحية قدر المستطاع..
فلو حاولت إصلاح خطأ عند أحد زملائك فلم يستجب.. فلا تقلب الصداقة عداوة..
وإنما استمر في التلطف فلعله أن يبقى على خطئه ولا يزيد..
وقد قيل: حنانيك بعض الشر أهون من بعض..
إذا تعاملت مع الناس بهذه الأريحية..
فلم تغضب على كل صغيرة وكبيرة.. عشت سعيداً..
قالت عائشة -رضي الله عنها : (
ما انتقم رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لنفسه قط.. وما ضرب شيئاً قط بيده.. ولا امرأة.. ولا خادماً.. إلا أن يجاهد في سبيل الله.. وما نيل منه شيء قط.. فينتقم من صاحبه.. إلا أن ينتهك شيء من محارم الله فينتقم لله ) ..
وحتى نفهم الفرق بين الغضبين: افرض أن ولدك الصغير جاءك ذات صباح
وطلب ريالاً أو ريالين مصروفاً للمدرسة.. فبحثت في محفظة نقودك..
فلم تجد إلا فئة الخمسمائة ريال.. فأعطيتها له..
وقلت: هذه خمسمائة ريال.. اصرف منها ريالين.. وأرجع الباقي..
وأكدت عليه وكررت.. فلما رجع بعد الظهر فإذا المال كله قد صرفه..
فماذا ستفعل؟.. وكيف سيكون غضبك.؟ قد تضرب وتعنف وتمنعه من مصروفه أياماً..
ولكن لو رجعت مرة من صلاة العصر ووجدته يلعب بالكمبيوتر..
أو عند التلفاز.. ولم يصل في المسجد.. فهل ستغضب كغضبك الأول؟
أظننا نتفق أن غضبنا الأول سيكون أشد وأطول وأكثر تأثيراً من غضبنا الثاني
بقلم :
د. محمد عبدالرحمن العريفي
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful Muslim's ethics As people differ morally and physically
...also they differ in their points of view
,convictions and behaviours...
So if you felt that someone has done some thing wrong
and you advised him and tried to correct his fault but
he hasn't been convinced, never classify his name
between your enemies and take it comfortably as you can..
and if you tried to correct a fault of one of your colleagues
but he did not accept so do not volatile the relation
from friendship to enmity but still gentle with him
maybe he stops on this fault and does not indulges..
And as they said: your tenderness please
some evil is lesser than some....if you have dealt with
people with this comfortableness
and haven't got angry from every simple and great thing
you will live happy..
- Aisha reported that Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him)
never beat anyone with his hand, neither a woman nor a servant, but only, in the case when he had been fighting for the sake of Allah and he never took revenge for anything unless the violation of what Allah has forbidden;
he then took revenge for Allah, the Exalted and Glorious
so muhammad peace be upon him got angry, not for himself but for Allah
and to understand the difference between the two angers
suppose that your little son came for you someday and asked you one or two RS
as expense for school and you looked in your money wallet
but you did not find except the five hundred RS'category
so you gave it to him and said: this is five hundred RS, spend two RS
and give me back the rest
and you confirmed on him and repeated
but when he came home in the afternoon,
he told you that he spent all money
so what will you do and how would be your anger? you might beat and use violence
and prevent him from his expense for days
but if you came home from the Asr prayer some day
and you found him playing on computer
or watching the television and he didn't his prayer at the mosque
Would your anger be as strong as your first anger? I think we agree that our anger in the first case would be
be stronger and longer and more influential than the second case.
Written by: D.Muhammad Abdul'Rahman Al Areefe.